do we choose the people we want to be friends with ?
Do we leave it to chance ?
Allow others to approach us?
Far safer to be chosen rather than the
chooser , no fear of rejection.
We tend to fear what we don't know.
Not many of us fully understand the opposite sex.
So are good friendships stroke relationships just down to fate and luck ?
if they are do we achieve good results by allowing others to do all the decision making especially in the first few hours of a potential
You could believe that you might get lucky , or we may think that we never meet the right people. Either way you could be right.
Matching aura's can give us the edge when it comes to stepping up and making the first move.
We still might fear rejection , this is normal , but if we make our choices on how we see somebodies aura then we can eliminate the worry of falling for a pretty
face or charming words.
Having come this far you will know the importance of self.
Get it right from a personal direction then the rest of life's harder decisions become simple.
we feel on the inside will show out in our aura.
What we tell ourselves will occur , I remember this in
one phrase "Thoughts become things".
The difference we feel once we get our thinking right is remarkable.
I see aura's around people who have been told time and time again that they can't.
This sort of tape running over and over again in your mind is enough to stop anyone thinking that life could be easier.
So begin with your own personal thoughts.
Positive mental attitude is the
foundation of getting your aura right.
Put the tapes in your mind away. They haven't worked for you in the past so why would you want to keep listening ?
Changing your thoughts can be scary at first , that fear again !
of it this way.
Everyday you walk to work , or to the shops , the shoes you have are old but very comfortable , in the sole are a few holes but on dry days you never notice as your feet feel great.
Then it rains the water comes in and your feet feel wet and cold.
is only just bearable , but who knows tomorrow will be sunny again you will forget how you
felt on that cold wet day until the next time it rains.
So in your wisdom one day after having cold wet
feet for the last time you decide to buy a brand new pair of shoes. At first the heel rubs and your toes feel cramped up , they are hard to get used to and then without noticing your feet start to feel great.
No pitching or rubbing just easy to wear , you have made the change , gone through the pain of accepting , now you're feeling the benefits
and walking becomes a pleasure again.
The first step of facing change is always the hardest step.
Every single thing we do in life starts with one single thought.
We first have to realise that we need to change. If we get by in the difficult times we will accept that life is that way.
Positive mental thinking will take us away from a negative way of thinking.Our thoughts will become positive our mind will start
to realise when things are wrong making the choicesearlier is the only way forward.
People who have this way of thought have clear energy in their aura's.
its not what we have been through its how we are now that counts.
If you let past mistakes overwhelm you
then you may stay in the fear of making more bad decisions.
What this in turn will do is leave you in one
place not making choices just accepting your lot as it is.
You can change this by thought. Just the fact that you have thought about this is enough to start a new way of thinking. Its that simple.
Your aura will reflect this. Its like dominoes once we start by pushing the first brick over we can't stop.
Now you don't have to accept my word for it there is a little experiment
you can do for yourself.
I believe how we are thinking shows out from the energy that surrounds us.
Next time you go out try walking with your head down , shuffling along not noticing anyone , not talking or smiling , just head
Do what ever you have to do then return home.
( This is what most of us do when we have our minds of other things , our aura becomes tightly wrapped around us and we become unapproachable , how many people have you seen today that are hidden behind mobile phones , newspapers
, M.B.3 players , you don't need to read their aura to stay away)
Now try the same journey as before but this
time pick your head up , look around above your eye level , smile at people , maybe stop and talk to a few shop keepers.
Your whole experience changes because of your attitude.
This one simple thing can demonstrate that once we remove the negative thoughts or the fear our whole life changes.
We meet others who are feeling like us (like attracts like) what we send out from our aura makes the life that we live.
Every single day we have choices to make
when meeting people , but the first choice we make long before we step out of our front door,is
- how are we going to be "when" ? Don't let fear control the "when" moment.
Everything we are starts with
a single thought.
From the moment we wake up to what we choose to wear, to the breakfast we eat to the transport
we use and the job we do.
We never ever think of our lives as a cascade
of decisions but it is.
Make good choices and we benefit
, make bad ones and we learn , don't make a choice and we stay in the same place.
Your aura will reflect
this. Learning to read other peoples aura's will help you avoid the stuck person who wants others to make their choices , decisions for them. The aura is a give away because
it will be tightly moulded to them , but you might have to look out for the other signs too.
will only be interested in you in the first instance.
Mainly talking about how they feel without listening.
Will talk about life in an idyllic way.
How they wished things were.
Would be good at putting you at your ease , coming
across non threatening even friendly, though you wouldn't have met before.
People who come in fast like
this are scared.
Scared that you may find them out.
Once you have their aura in your view this will confirm how
tight the energy is.
The colours to look out for are dark browns and dark blues , with middle aura energy
leaking out of the orange outer aura , gaps around the head and tummy areas will just confirm this person has little of their own energy.
around this person too long and you will feel drained.
All these signs will help you avoid
long term contact.
Every day is an opportunity to measure yourself against your own
potential , your potential to make the right choices in the people that you invite into your life.
first understanding how your aura attracts others, then interpreting their aura can in turn give you the confidence to make the correct choices.
We know how we feel. Our emotions act as indicators of the moment. Happy or sad , our inner feelings will affect our outward behaviour.
Our moods are for others easy to pick up on.
For every single feeling , mood or emotion there is a colour that shows up in our aura.
Being able to see and interpret
these colours is the very first step to understanding others , this in turn will help us create the best possible relationships.
By being able to see in others what we are looking for , we are not relying on what we hear , or more like it what we want to hear.
We will make our own judgements by what we see.
Take this along
side our own personal intuition how could we fail but to form long lasting relationships? Getting our own aura right is the first step in attracting others with good aura's.
So remember "like attract like".
Just because you are seeing the colours around others doesn't mean you don't have to work on your own emotional issues.
Everything starts with self.
The better we feel , the easier good choices become.
Good relationships start with good choices.
We have to know what we want before we can tell others.
If we rely on people coming to us , all we will meet are people who are easy to meet.
might sound like all we want , believe me it isn't.
Knowing our own mind , then our own visions then the colours that show from us we can meet people who have the same thinking.
Where we can go wrong is waiting for the
right person to bump into our life. By chance. I like to think of this as No chance ! No chance of making it past the first few weeks.
The people we meet when we don't do the work ourselves are very often people who are needy or emotionally damaged.
As they don't have a big neon sign above their heads showing us all their past history we have to rely on picking up the signals.
Aura's can really help us , as long as we don't switch off the intuition
we were born with.
The first impression of a person is how they look. Then the smile ,closely followed by the voice.
Believe it or not but the smell of the person affects how we see them too.
said is often forgotten , but the emotional , personal feel isn't.
So the first thing to remember is not to focus on the words.
People say what they think we want to hear.
The first contact
should be about flirting, fun , enjoying the attention without taking it too seriously.
You may never see this person again so why worry(often we are too concerned about meeting a partner to look too deep. As long as we are hearing what we want to hear this person must be right ! )
Then we worry this person might not like us
or have the same intentions or agenda's as we do. If we don't act fast we may miss out.
this is wrong thinking.
Let me explain.
people will always act with consideration. Your needs will be front and centre of their thoughts. Acting fast wouldn't appeal.
They would want to know about you. Its not enough just to be there.
will have to take part.
Answer questions. Not just listen.
Your skills at picking out the colours can give
you an advantage.
If you can't see the aura that's fine look at the clothes.
Clothes are the first indication of how people are feeling.(The following is only true
when people get to choose what they are wearing, working clothes or uniforms are very deceptive
Starting from black and working down the scale through greys then whites. Reds , blues, yellows,
greens all have meanings.
You are very likely to see these colours in their aura , people are
seventy percent unconscious thinkers.
So when this person got dressed for a social event it would be driven by how they were feeling about the time ahead.
Dressing in black shows a need to be in the background , not to be noticed.
Black top is don't look at my tummy, or my chest.
Black trousers aren't so meaningful.
We normally look at the top half of a person.
But when all black is worn together it indicates" I feel bad" , don't look at me.
Not many extroverts wear all black unless its making a statement or being part of a pier
People with auras that are dark tend to choose dark clothing .
Black in an aura is about not being able to deal with emotional past issues , or might have concerns about health , or even
at extreme be controlling negative half empty people.On a less of level be lacking
in self confidence.
Not making choices.Making others responsible
for how they are feeling.
in any walk of life people who wear a mixture of colours have a balance in how they are feeling. Combinations of reds ,whites, yellows, blues greens are all good indications that the person has a personality
that is lively, issues about their emotional feelings will still be in the background
,but the likely hood is they wont live their life looking for others to takeresponsibility
for their feelings.
Its not what they have been through its where it has lead them to.
Remember combinations of colours are good.
All one colour can show a lack of balance.
I have already talked about black , this is
what the other colours mean.
White. Dressing all in white in the western world means the person is very confident on the surface.
Wants others to notice their body.
Will often have very little to offer in a conversation.
for these people just to sit back and let others do the work.
Reliant on how they look to attract others.
Dressing all in red means different things depending on gender.
often wear just red. Red is reserved in male dressing to make a statement. A hanky in the top pocket , or a pair of bright red socks. (men that do this are secretly
trying to break free of a dull existence) Women who want to attract will wear a red dress.
But its not about finding a partner.Most women who choose red are normally in very happy relationships. They want to tell
the world how happy they are.
people to talk to is a good way of sharing.
Blue. People who choose blue
are communicators. So many different shades of blue , the most of any of the colours we wear.
By choosing to wear different shades together sends out signals of being able to listen but also that we are friendly , non aggressive.
Blue jeans have become the choice of many because of the non confrontational
signal that we just want to get on with others. A relaxed way of dressing and thinking.
Green. Very few of us choose to wear green.
Just by that very
fact those who do want to stand out. Its about making a statement , "I stand for".
go through emotional bad break ups will buy green as a sign that they are going to get on with life.
Many will do this but most believe they can't.
Green can also be deemed to be aggressive by others. Just have a look around when you go out not many choose green.
Yellow.The brave and the bold.
Yellow wearers just don't mind what others think.
people with something to share.
Like being noticed , like people asking their opinions.
Good communicators, good business
people with new ideas.
The colours we choose are very tell tale. How we think what we want
can all be seen through the colours that we wear.
Reading another persons aura can tell us so much about who they are. Once we stop listening we can make our decisions based on what we are seeing.
In this chapter I have made two strong statements.
"Like attract like".
So before you start looking at others take a good look at yourself.
Deal with the past first.
Don't overlap emotional lives.
By changing your thinking you are changing your aura.
This will attract people who can enhance your life.
The second point is don't make others responsible for your happiness.
Think about what you want from somebody who wishes
to share their life with you.
Look at the colours first.
There will be plenty of time in the future to
listen to each other.
One last thing. We have forgotten that relationships are FUN.
Life is not complicated.
People are !
Keep it simple don't be too fast to rush into another's life.
Enjoy the chase.
But most of all enjoy life.
We normally find what we are looking for when we stop looking.
Enjoy the moment.